“What was that all about?” 

“Dad, here are mom’s slippers.”
“Son, I sent you to get her laptop!”
“Sorry dad.”

How do we get slippers from laptop?

Ever have a team member come to you with a report and you think:

“That’s not even CLOSE to what I asked for.”  How could things have gotten so off track?

I find that this happens a lot with my teens (and pre-teens.)  Sometimes it’s a listening problem, but if I’m being honest with myself I need to recognize that many times it’s my fault.

Action Point:
What can you do to be more clear?
What if you made a moment or two to think about HOW you’ll say what you want, and how to engage your listener?

I’ve picked up a few “formulas” for communication – and wanted to share one today.

1. Observation – here’s what I noticed you doing / not doing.
2. Impact – here’s the impact that’s having.
3. Suggestion — here’s what you can try going forward.

Getting back to those slippers,
(Observation)

“Thanks for your help.

Hey – I’ve noticed that sometimes when I ask for your help you end up picking up something entirely different than what I asked you to get  – like those slippers you’re holding right now.”

(Impact) 

“It seems pretty inefficient to have you go twice, plus it’s frustrating to have you get what I didn’t want.”

(Suggestion)

“Next time, let’s try this:  When I ask you to get get something, please repeat back what I asked so I know we’re on the same page.  Can we make that work?”

More Info
For more formulas on communication, including

• Explaining a problem
• Talking about your products or
• Communicating your vision,

check out this blog post from another coach

One Final Thought:
Help your team by giving them specific feedback using the Observation, Impact, and Suggestion formula –
then email me and tell me how it went. tom@BrightHillGroup.com

Cooper News:
I’m in DC this week.   We’re helping my mother in law work on downsizing in prep for her move.  She’s coming to live with us!  I’m also doing some work with corporate clients on “Managing Difficult Customers”, Goal Setting and Goal Achievement, plus I’m meeting with friends, too.

I had such powerful response to the previous blog post on how to buy a car that I felt it might be helpful to write a followup posting.

In fact, a dear friend (we will call her Susan) worked in the accounting department of a car dealership for six years.  She was a car industry “insider” and she shared some great ideas with me.  I want to make them available to you, too!

Susan shares 9 additional ideas that I thought you might want to hear:

1. The car loan you have today can be the last car loan you ever have – REALLY!
2. Leasing is a bad idea
3. Negotiation tactics (and how to counter them)
4. Good Cop/Bad Cop
5. When Is The Best Time To Buy? (When does the dealer really want that sale?)
6. What to wear when you go to the dealership
7. More hidden dealership profit in that deal
8. Ways to sweeten the deal (that the dealer will go for)
9. One final way to get a lower price on a model you want

1. The car loan you have today can be the last car loan you ever have – REALLY!
First, I want to debunk a myth I heard many years ago.

A relative said to me “I’m always going to have a car payment, so I might as well have a car I like.”
OUCH!  “I’m always going to have a car payment?”

Really?

As if there’s no other option?

Holly and I have not had a car payment in 15 years.  You can do it, too.

Susan and John (her husband) don’t borrow money for cars, either.

Every month we put aside what would be our car note and use that savings for the next vehicle. We hold onto our vehicles as long as we can. We would probably still have the 1990 Geo Prism if it hadn’t gotten smashed.

When I was in college my aunt gave me some great advice.

Here’s what my aunt said:
1. Buy a car you can pay off in 3 years.  If you can’t afford to make the payments over a 36 month note, it’s too expensive for you.
2. During those 3 years, make your payments faithfully.  You’re paying off the bank.
3. Keep the car another 3 years.  A good car should definitely last AT LEAST 6 years.
4. During that second three years, make payments to yourself.  You’re already in the habit of making that much of a payment.  Keep it up – put that money in a savings account.
5. At the end of 6 years, you’ve saved enough to pay cash for your next car.  Go buy it, and keep making payments to yourself.

If you do this, the car note you have today can be the last car payment you EVER have.

2. Leasing is a bad idea!
Susan (the accountant) says “leasing is the worst”

Why is leasing a bad idea financially?  It’s cheaper, right?
Wrong!  Only the monthly payments are less.  Your overall cost is higher than if you just bought the car, drove it for a few years and then sold it, but even that is not the cheapest plan.

The leasing process:
You pay a bunch of cash down.
You make monthly payments on someone else’s car during the first few years while it depreciates the most!  (That $29K car is worth about $17K when the lease is over )
At the end of the lease you’ve paid a bunch of fees, and interest, and the car has depreciated.  You leave the lease with nothing.
It’s true that when you BUY a car it is immediately worth less, but at the end of the loan you have the car to use, and it’s still worth SOMETHING.

3. Negotiation tactics
Remember – this is a marathon, not a sprint.  Plan to spend several days or weeks researching and shopping for a car.  Be well rested and well fed during the purchase process and you’ll pay less at the end.

Susan says: The more time invested, the more the salesperson desires (and is held to) a return.

Also – for some reason it’s not culturally common in the US to haggle, but it’s a part of the car buying process.

Susan says:
I have to tell my friends that it’s okay: dealers expect this. (Although there is a fine line between haggling and manipulating – my integrity tries to steer from the latter.) There is such a thing as honest negotiating – – if not in monetary terms then concessions such as free car washes. It is becoming more acceptable as our population diversifies. Negotiating is commonplace in other countries. 

4. Good Cop/Bad Cop

This is a technique common to dealerships.  By design, the salesperson has limited authority.  They have to “check with the manager.” They can act like they are on your side, trying to get this deal done – working with you against the dealership.

I mentioned in part 1 how Holly does not go to the dealership with me during negotiations.  This is our version of “good cop/bad cop”  I don’t have the authority to make the decision.  I have to “check with my wife” and can come back from those calls encouraged, and challenged to make the deal sweeter. “I’d love to sign the papers, but my wife won’t go for it.  I think I might be able to talk her into it if you could just come down another $500 on the price.”

Here’s what Susan says about Good Cop/Bad Cop:
Another tactic is what the inside coins “T.O.” (turnover). When the rep is put on the spot they will have to “run it by their manager”. I’m sure this has happened to you multiple times since you’re a strong negotiator. What is really happening is the rep isn’t “checking” or getting approval; rather, the rep is a player getting prepped by the coach with a different strategy from the playbook. 

So what can you do when they do this?  Susan continues:
Never ever let the rep “escape” to the sidelines. My counter, “Chris, am I working with you or the Manager? I’ll work with the one who has the authority to make the deal. If that’s not you then where’s the Manager’s office?” This is the walk of shame and reps worth their salt will avoid this. However, I’ve stumbled quite a few reps and have taken on plenty of managers.

I’ve taken on managers, too.  I remember one manager refusing to budge on price.  I knew he really wanted to sell that minivan.  (I really wanted it, too!) I told him that I could not go any further and I would walk.  He called my bluff.  I was upset, because I felt like the tactic backfired – but I kept a strong game face as I said “OK – well, when you’re ready to sell that van, you can give me a call.” and started to turn away.  He yelled “I WILL NOT CALL YOU.”

He was true to his word.  2 weeks later the SALESMAN called me and asked “Mr. Cooper, why don’t you come get your van?”  I was able to get them to make additional concessions and we happily drove that van for a long time.  Of course, it was tough going home and telling my wife that I thought we had failed, and that next two weeks I thought a lot about whether I had made the right call.  Now, of course, I believe we did.

Back to Susan on how she and her husband apply of Good Cop/Bad Cop
John  & I do a “Good Cop, Bad Cop” routine. John shows up at signing and pitches a fit, which he’s really good at (smile). We manage to squeeze a little more at the end. 

 

5. How to dress to get the best deal
That matters?  Really?  You bet.

Here’s what Susan says about clothes:
Show up in plain clothes. Believe me when I say customers are assessed before they even exit their vehicle. Reps will start high when they perceive a “high-roller”. While most negotiating takes place via email, I’ll pull up in our ’92 Dodge and sweats – no jewelry other than my wedding band. Also, I have the advantage of putting all my research in my shoulder bag. A guy should store his in a messenger bag. When customers showed up with briefcase in tow, they dealer would usually pair them with their toughest negotiator.

For a good laugh about this, check out this clip from The Cosby Show 

6. Is there really a time to get the best deal?
Yes.  Does that mean that the ONLY time you can get a good deal is on this special day?  No, but if you understand what the other guy wants, that can help you get what you want.
I’ve read that your best negotiation happens on a rainy Friday night on the last day of the month – if you bring your kids, your neighbor’s kids, even your dog.  I’ve never stooped that low, but there are times that make negotiation easier.

Susan says:
Auto fiscals cycle every September, so the best time to shop for a new (prior year) vehicle is the last day of the month between October and January. The last day because reps have to make their monthly quota even if they claim “no commission”. Remember, the dealer has financed that 2014 car throughout the year and is ready to turn over to their 2015 stock. 

Also, going to the dealer during the rain, ice, and light snow is a good time to shop because there is little foot traffic; therefore, dealers are eager to make deals. I would not advise going to the dealer during a decent snowfall if the dealer carries all-terrain vehicles because that’s when everybody and their mother gets the bug to buy a 4WD. As a result, that puts the selling power in the dealer’s hands.

We bought that minivan in the middle of February on a dark and cold night.

7. More hidden dealership profit in that deal
The car business is tricky.  Dealers don’t actually buy those cars at invoice price from the manufacturer and resell them. They borrow money from the manufacturers – called “floor planning” the cars.  The dealer has to make payments on those cars.  The longer they sit on the lot, the more the cars cost the dealer.  Dealers make the most profit by selling a car as soon as it hits their lot.

Because this is so complex, there are lots of ways that the dealer and manufacturer do business which are not visible to you.  The dealership can “lose money” on YOUR deal, and still make money from selling that car.  Confusing, isn’t it?

Susan continues:
Also, there is something called “holdback” which can amount up to $1,000. This is the dealership’s internal buffer. 

Regardless of how low you go the rep will get paid. 

I never feel bad about “lowballing”. During a particular negotiation the rep almost walked out on me (lol) until I reminded them about their holdback, which absolutely stunned this rep because this is the ultimate insider-trading. 
The rep acted as if I was twisting their arm and making them give the vehicle away (mercy strategy). 

They will still make a buck no matter how low we went. 

Moreover, dealers will receive rebates on particular models, which they can pass along to the customer, so it’s important to research what are those dealer rebates in addition to customer incentives. Dealers will pretend they can’t pass their rebate to you, but they can. 

8. Ways to sweeten the deal (that the dealer will go for)
There are things you can ask for that the dealer is more likely to go for.

Susan reminds us:
There are customer loyalty bonuses too. After talking down to brass tax I threw that in the mix at the 11th hour. I was negotiating a Silverado and produced evidence that I owned another Chevy albeit our ’67 Camaro, but hey it still qualified. The dealer offered me a job – haha. 

One thing that many are not aware is rustproofing and undercoating are standard now, which is why like you pointed out consumers should never pay for something that’s automatic. 

As a parting shot I’ll go after concessions such as a full tank of gas and ask them to throw in a Buyer Protection Plan (BPP). 
Dealers try to charge extra for BPP because it does have value, but they’ll easily come off of it because what do they care of profit for their Service Department? 
My Prius is going on 10-years and I have free oil changes and loaner cars for life. In the big picture, that holds additional value.  

9 . One final way to get a lower price on a model you want
If your heart is set on a specific model, there is a way that you can get a lower price on a “new” car.  You can buy a dealer demonstrator car.  These are the cars that salesmen drive to promote sales.  Dealerships can sell them as “new” cars, but you can get a discount for the miles put on by the sales staff.

Susan says:
If someone wants “new” and can tolerate some usage then ask to look at a “demo”. A demo is the vehicle driven by reps as advertisement. It may have a few thousand miles, but only one user and maintained by the dealer. It’s as good as new and saves the buyer several thousand dollars. The adage is true that a vehicle loses a significant percentage of its value the moment it is driven off of the lot.  

Something to keep in mind about that shiny, good smelling car that you “love” and “just have to buy.”
An added advantage to the surplus of vehicles on the market is the luxury to walk away if the deal is not agreeable. I can just go to the next dealer. It’s not unique – like a house I might fall in love with. The buyer has more “power” than they might realize.

In Closing
Don’t fall prey to the idea that the only time you can get a great deal is RIGHT NOW.  That’s a myth.
You can get a good deal on any day – if you’ve done your homework.  You may be able to get an incredible deal if the stars align, but don’t worry about that.

Remember that if you have a pattern of preparing and getting good deals, when the incredible deal comes along, you’ll know and be able to celebrate it, too!

What have you done to get a great deal on a car?

“The Story” 
Posted by a friend on a fitness accountability group:

“I had an excuse all lined up for today.

Woke up with horrible upper back/neck pain. It’s icy outside. Hubby is working and after two hours of chasing [my little one] around the older girls’ basketball game, I was spent. Ate a cookie and some pretzels

and then I asked myself, “Do you really want to look back and say, I wish I would have been more diligent?”

So I made myself a healthy dinner and took the dog for his 1.5 mile walk. Did some planks and push-ups. Still don’t feel great, but the walk made me feel much better. I know eating would have made me feel awful.”

Action Point:
I love the fact that she asked the question:
“Do you really want to look back and say, I wish I would have been more diligent?”

Then she TOOK ACTION and changed her behavior!

More Info
There’s so much to say on this topic, but I recently came across this Harvard Business Review podcast on developing a “growth mindset” which is really worth your time!

One Final Thought:
When facing a challenge or frustration, step back and ask “Do you really want to look back and say, I wish…?”

What are you facing?  What will you choose?  Email me and tell me! tom@BrightHillGroup.com

Cooper News:
My 3 year old son cracked me up over the weekend.  After I got a much-needed haircut he stopped me and asked:
“Dad, why do you have ugly hair?”

Gotta love those fleeting moments.  (And I’m glad I don’t count on him to be my style advisor.)

Today’s Story
It’s “that time” of year where we all intend to make changes.

Starting in December I got “back on the wagon” tracking all the food I eat.  I also started tracking my exercise.  I discovered that I eat a lot more than I realize and that I am almost completely sedentary.

Rather than set a New Year’s resolution to “get fit” or “lose weight” which is doomed to failure, I’m working out a fitness system to help me make little changes each day.

Action Point
The headline is a paraphrase of Scott Adams (author of Dilbert) and it’s true.  Social science research shows that we cannot will ourselves to decide on a big goal and immediately make major changes in our behavior.

The key is to decide on something shockingly small and tie it to something you already do consistently.  For example, one researcher wanted to floss more consistently, so he said “after I brush, I will floss one tooth, and then celebrate my success.”  He found that before long he was flossing all his teeth regularly.

Going deeper
There’s a powerful social science researcher from Stanford who offers a free program to help you implement change.
A summary of his program is here: along with a TED talk on the same topic

One Final Thought
Instead of a “resolution” – What small change can you make?  How can you add it to a routine that you already have in place?

Cooper News
We decided to help our kids be more active when it came to recreation.  We instituted a rule where they need to walk a mile (2 laps around the block) to “earn” a 20 minute Wii turn.  It worked so well that we had to set an upper limit!  Some of our kids did a 5K just to earn more playtime!