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February 24, 2014 by Tom 1 Comment

What can you do if they "just don't get it"?

What can you do if they "just don't get it"?

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Today’s Story

I was working with a client recently who was facing a dilemma.  Her project was being delayed by a key influencer, and that meant that she was not going to deliver on time.

More than her pride was at stake – she was convinced that this delay would be bad for the company – but the key influencers making the decisions were not on board with her thinking.

What can you do when they just don’t “get it”?

Action Point

When they don’t get it – one technique is to walk them through a simple example so that you and the other person have looked at the data together.  Once you’ve walked through the calculations together, you have a much better chance of them buying into your analysis.
Today’s email is a little longer than usual, but I wanted to give you a specific example.
Here’s the situation:
  • You believe it will cost more than THEY believe it will cost (money, time, headaches, etc)
  • Until THEY believe it, there’s no way they will change their behavior.

But how do you get them to believe your calculations?

A tool I have used is the “incidence, expense” tool – Even though you have 100% knowledge of the facts, you “learn with them” as you “discover” the costs together.

For example, let’s say that:

  • You know that something is a problem which will cost $20,000.00
  • Your sponsor (or other influencer) doesn’t believe it.

Right now – “THEY” don’t have a $20,000 problem.

“YOU” have a $20,000 problem.
To help them “get it” you could say:Project Manager (PM):

“What does it cost us when a customer who has not gotten this upgrade calls the helpdesk? “Sponsor: “We’d have to research that.”

PM: “You know, I talked to Joe at the helpdesk – he says it takes 1 hour per call – and our fully loaded rate for a helpdesk person is $50/hour – so I think that means it costs $50/incident.  Does that sound right?”

Sponsor: “I guess so”

PM: “How often does this happen?”

Sponsor: “Do you have the numbers on that, too?”

PM: “Actually, I have done a little research on that, too.  Our helpdesk has been getting 50 calls/week.
50 calls/week times $50/call sounds like $2500/week if calls come in at the current rate – does that sound right?”

Sponsor: “That makes sense”

PM: “And we know from the people who already converted that when the conversion happens, customers stop calling the help desk about this problem.”

Sponsor: “Is that right?”

You: “Yes.  Now we’ve been talking about a potential 2 month delay in the schedule.
If each week is costing us $2500, and we extend the schedule by 8 weeks – hmm – I think that would be a cost overrun of $20,000 – does that make sense?”

Sponsor: “A $20,000 overrun?  Wow.  What can we do to fix that?”

PM: “I’ve looked at that with the team – They tell me that we can hit the original schedule – but it will require a couple of changes.”

Sponsor: “On time?  What do we have to do?”

PM: “The team tells me that if we can make this project a higher priority than Project Y they can get it done when we originally planned.”

Sponsor: “The VP responsible for project Y will not be happy about this, but avoiding a $20K overrun is worth it.  Let’s do it.”

There are always hard dollar costs (as in my example,)  soft costs and opportunity costs.

Usually execs don’t buy into the benefits that are not hard dollar costs,  but even if they don’t, you can mention them after the hard costs.  Execs like to address soft costs (decreased frustration, increased efficiency) to help bolster your argument.

Going Deeper

I came across this idea in a FABULOUS book called Let’s Get Real or Let’s Not Play
It’s a great read on negotiations – and a solid resource for project managers

 

One Final Thought

It doesn’t matter how sure you are that you’re right.  Until THEY know what YOU know, you’re not going to get the buy in that you need.
Walking them through a simple example can make sure that you’re both on the same page.
Have you tried it?  What happened?  I’d love to hear about it.  Send me an email!

Cooper News

Good news!  I’m now in the running for “fun parent!”
My oldest gave me the good news this week.
(I’m usually *NOT* the fun parent.)
In case you want to be in the running (or actually achieve) fun parent status,
here’s what moved my campaign forward:
1. Taking the kids to the Lego movie: “Everything is Awesome…”
      (now I can’t get rid of that earworm tune!)
2. Suggesting they stop the ice cream truck (and funding the purchase.)  It was in the 70’s, and the ice cream truck came trolling through the neighborhood.
I’m not sure what will push me over the edge into full, official fun parent status, but my son tells me I should keep up the good work!Coopers at lego movie 2 2014

 

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  1. Tom says

    February 28, 2014 at 11:30 AM

    A friend asked (in another forum)
    What do you do if they don’t WANT to get it?

    I guess I’d ask “Why don’t they want to get it?”

    How is this relevant to their challenges?

    I did an interview with the former CIO of Forrester who talked about the need to have things put in terms that are relevant to the execs, not our terms.

    http://brighthillgroup.com/what-do-you-find-inside-the…/

    Usually for tech experts, we want to give too many details, and leaders get mired in the “cloud of confusion.”

    What is the business impact of this issue? Is it tied to revenue gain or loss? What about customer satisfaction? What about support costs?

    All of us want to know WII-FM – What’s In It For Me?

    For those really disengaged leaders, do you know what’s in it for them?

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